I used to think that if I could just find the right doctor, the right hairstylist, the right dentist, etc, etc. they would be able to answer and solve all of my woes regarding my health, my teeth, my hair, etc., etc. And I'm sure I'm not the only one who has been frustrated at doctors, hairstylists, and those professionals who seem to be less than competent.
So I've come to realize that I have to ask the right questions and be persistent if I feel that I need to fix or remedy an ailment or something that bothers me. We are our own best advocates when it comes to all matters regarding us. I'm not saying that you shouldn't go to doctors or to cut your own hair. What I'm saying is that you have to take an active part during your meetings with experts, no matter how highly recommended they come.
I recently had a scenario with two different doctors: one recommending a Vitamin D pill the other recommending a Vitamin D + Calcium pill. One doctor recommended against the calcium pill saying that it is very hard to absorb a calcium vitamin and that the levels of vitamin D in the calcium vitamin were very low and would not be beneficial to my body. So what's a girl to do? That's where the questions come in handy. Don't be afraid to ask doctors questions. I now even jot down a few notes on my phone because I don't want to forget anything. Plus I've learned that having a notepad or something you can read from, slows doctors down a bit and makes them explain things in "lay man's" terms.
I've stopped feeling sorry for myself and the frustration that comes from multiple "experts" telling me conflicting views and decided that I have to come to my own conclusions and be willing to be brave enough to stand up for what I think is best for me. We would do it for our children, for our loved ones and friends, why is it that we waiver when it comes to making the right decisions for ourselves?
Another key is to try to surround yourself around people and friends that will listen. They will listen to your frustrations, they will inspire you to look outside of what's worrying you and motivate you to seek the solutions to the problems you have. Mind you, that they will not be there to fix it for you, but will be there to encourage you along the way.
I've been more careful recently to give support instead of specific advice. I can always give advice from my own perspective, but I make sure I tell people this is my story, my experience, not theirs. They can take what I've learned and experienced and try to see if it fits their puzzle or somehow helps their situation. But just like every head of hair is different and we cannot recommend one product to fix all of our hair woes, our advice is just that advice. Listen to it, ponder and see if you can put it into action for yourself. After all, I want to learn to put my own makeup on fix my hair and not just wait on Fairy Godmother to do it all for me. Who knows she might get held up in traffic, or have her own fashion disaster. The ball and prince charming are waiting and I'm ready to dance!!
So I've come to realize that I have to ask the right questions and be persistent if I feel that I need to fix or remedy an ailment or something that bothers me. We are our own best advocates when it comes to all matters regarding us. I'm not saying that you shouldn't go to doctors or to cut your own hair. What I'm saying is that you have to take an active part during your meetings with experts, no matter how highly recommended they come.
I recently had a scenario with two different doctors: one recommending a Vitamin D pill the other recommending a Vitamin D + Calcium pill. One doctor recommended against the calcium pill saying that it is very hard to absorb a calcium vitamin and that the levels of vitamin D in the calcium vitamin were very low and would not be beneficial to my body. So what's a girl to do? That's where the questions come in handy. Don't be afraid to ask doctors questions. I now even jot down a few notes on my phone because I don't want to forget anything. Plus I've learned that having a notepad or something you can read from, slows doctors down a bit and makes them explain things in "lay man's" terms.
I've stopped feeling sorry for myself and the frustration that comes from multiple "experts" telling me conflicting views and decided that I have to come to my own conclusions and be willing to be brave enough to stand up for what I think is best for me. We would do it for our children, for our loved ones and friends, why is it that we waiver when it comes to making the right decisions for ourselves?
Another key is to try to surround yourself around people and friends that will listen. They will listen to your frustrations, they will inspire you to look outside of what's worrying you and motivate you to seek the solutions to the problems you have. Mind you, that they will not be there to fix it for you, but will be there to encourage you along the way.
I've been more careful recently to give support instead of specific advice. I can always give advice from my own perspective, but I make sure I tell people this is my story, my experience, not theirs. They can take what I've learned and experienced and try to see if it fits their puzzle or somehow helps their situation. But just like every head of hair is different and we cannot recommend one product to fix all of our hair woes, our advice is just that advice. Listen to it, ponder and see if you can put it into action for yourself. After all, I want to learn to put my own makeup on fix my hair and not just wait on Fairy Godmother to do it all for me. Who knows she might get held up in traffic, or have her own fashion disaster. The ball and prince charming are waiting and I'm ready to dance!!
